Those aren't my earrings.
Before I met my husband, I dated a guy who cheated on me.
The day I discovered what happened I decided to stop by and see him ...unannounced. He always left his door unlocked. (He probably doesn't anymore though.) Regardless, when I entered his house I went right to the bathroom since I'd been driving for some time. I was about to call him and ask when he'd be home, when I discovered a pair of hoop earrings on the bathroom shelf. Those aren't my earrings, I thought. But whose are they? I walked into his bedroom. There was a photo of some random naked woman cuddling his dog.
Don't ask.
I called him. He was pretty nervous.
Just then, the door opened and the same woman from the photo enters, fully clothed, with his dog. Apparently she had the task of walking the dog and was ready to give me an earful. Needless to say, it was quite a messy confrontation. My relationship subsequently ended, and I was grateful.
I wasn't in love with this guy so besides a bruised ego, it was easy to let him go. But what happens when you are in love? What if the individual who cheated on you is your spouse? How do you manage that moment? Your emotions?
People cheat for many reasons. Some of the most common motivations are when the person no longer feels emotionally connected to the partner, they have low self esteem, they're sexually unhappy with their mate, or they have a sexual addiction. Whatever the cause, when there is infidelity you still have to deal with the fallout.
That incident happened almost two decades ago. I'll never stop by someone's home unannounced again. But I'm glad that I did that day.
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