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The color of denim hung in the air like laundry that wouldn’t dry. The clouds were heavy with their blessings, but I didn’t care. I wanted a clear sky for our wedding.

It is said that rain is a blessing for the commitment of marriage. But it’s just rain. Commitment takes more than a blessing.

When couples first meet and intend to marry, generally they use the emotion of love to gauge whether or not they can commit to a lifetime of wedded bliss. However, love is not enough.

Two individuals come together in union based upon their feelings, commonalities, the ability to have fun together, you name it. These same two individuals come from different backgrounds, different woundings, and deal with conflict in separate ways. We can’t expect this to be an easy ride. So why do people get married? What’s the point? People will continue to get married because they will continue to believe in love and fall in love. This is all good. However, marriage, like life is designed to make us grow and transform. But somehow that part is often forgotten and replaced with expectations of perpetual joy.

"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly."

- Richard Bach

The concept of transformation is the most important part of marriage. After its blissful beginning, reality sets in and challenges can arise. Over time, you may realize that your partner handles conflict and/or life different from you. It really doesn’t matter what issues appear however, it’s about your reaction to them and how you deal with adversity as a team.

The sun finally appeared the day of my wedding and we continue to have a good marriage for over a decade. But that’s only because we’ve embraced the transformational nature of marriage, and I follow the tips that I’m about to share with you.

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